Clear Goals Create Clear Paths
From the desk of Nicole Trincia, CLC, LMT... Ever wonder how some days you can jump out of bed energized and sail through your day with ease, while other days can feel like a drag and you never seem to get anything done?
I was contemplating this the other day as I was able to tackle various projects and errands quicker and more joyfully than I had anticipated. I knew exactly what I wanted to accomplish and clearly defined each step along the way. I had a plan. Granted, some of the errands were of relative low "importance" (i.e. stop by bagel shop, take subway to pick up glasses, stop by copier on way home). However, they were all essential parts of my daily routine, personal care, and business. I was able to complete my tasks swiftly and effortlessly. I felt satisfied.
So, what if we could apply this simple strategy to more "complex" projects in our lives? When you get up in the morning, you don't typically struggle with getting ready (assuming you've rested enough, allotted enough time in your schedule, etc.) You know what to do first (get in the shower), second (dry off), third (get dressed), and so on. What if you approached your "bigger" tasks in a similar manner?
First, you would identify what it is you would like to accomplish as clearly as you would something as straight forward as "picking up your glasses". This may take some time to go through some reflective pre-work, but is essential to achieving your goal. A well lit beacon in the night is much easier to find than one that sits dark or is blocked by clouds. Start by visualizing your goal. See it crystal clear and without question, like the route I took to pick up my glasses, knowing I will get them, bring them home, and wearing them already. Now, zoom-in very small. What would be the very first step you could take in moving in the direction of manifesting your dream? It might even be getting out a pad of paper and brainstorming the pieces, or as simple as taking 15 minutes to be very still and quiet as you look out the window or get in nature to "bathe" in how it would feel to already be living your dream. It also sometimes helps to track backwards from your goal if you're stuck on figuring out the next step.
Once you have your plan (a collection of chronological steps), take the first micro step in moving forward. Keep it small and manageable. Biting off more than you can chew at one time or pinning yourself against time or money are sure goal squelchers. Move slowly, as is comfortable for you. Let your body be your guide to your pace, not the clock or your to-do-list. To-do-lists are effective maps to your road of progress, keep you energized and clear about what comes next. They are meant to be modified and extended as your body dictates (not the other way around!) and as your plan evolves, unexpected changes undoubtedly occur, and new information is received. When you're ready for more, take the next step. Remember, each step (even just thinking briefly about your goal) is bringing you one step closer than you were to realizing your dream!
Nicole Trincia, CLC, LMT Certified Life Coach & Licensed Massage Therapist
Nicole Trincia is a Martha Beck Certified Life Coach and Certified Massage Therapist. Through her coaching, she inspires mindful people to connect their hearts to their bodies, so they may live blissfully- right now! She offers practices that re-connect clients with nature, timelessness and simplicity, and guides powerful thought work that confronts and deconstructs limiting beliefs. Inviting curiosity with compassion, Nicole empowers clients to be present and in alignment with their truth, so they may attract joy and their best life.
Nicole has been practicing massage therapy for over fourteen years. She graduated from Healing Touch Institute in 2000, with certification in Holistic Massage Therapy. Her training includes Swedish, Esalen, Neuromuscular, Myofascial, Sports and Pregnancy Massage, as well as Polarity, Aromatherapy, and yoga. Her intuitive style integrates Cranio Sacral, Thai Massage, Hot Stone, assisted stretching, and Feldenkrais techniques. In 2010, she completed the First Degree of the Usui System of Reiki Healing.
Having earned a B.A. in Psychology from Wheaton College and a M.A. in Education from Lesley University, Nicole is personally fascinated with the mind-body connection. She is committed to identifying both painful thoughts and physical stress patterns, and educates clients on proper body mechanics, work habits, diet, exercise and positive thinking. Nicole has been practicing Forrest Yoga for 14 years and has studied Macrobiotics. She delights in sharing what she has learned through overcoming personal and physical challenges, massage, and overall mind-body awareness with her clients, so that they may live a more balanced, vivacious, and joyful life!
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